Dear Skeletor: This blog is amazing. I recognize a lot of the positive affirmations from a Louise Hay tape I used to listen to when I was in a deep depression and dealing with severe anxiety issues. Just wanted to say thank you for adding the hilarious photos that match up so perfectly with the affirmations ^_^
Thank you for your kind words! And yes, we did start off with quite a bit of Louise L. Hay, as well as Eckhart Tolle, and even some Tony Robbins! Nowadays we sort of just make it up as we go along because we used up all the good stuff :)
Dear Skeletor, I know some other people have bigger and more pressing problems than mine, but please, bear with me. I don't have a problem making new friends and meeting people. I know I put the most pressing matters to the last minute and sometimes experience anxiety due to that, but I also KNOW that if I put myself in a situation of do or die - I can hold strong. But I waste my free time! If I have a day off, I waste it and never get anything done - fun or work.How do I overcome this sickness?
My dear person! How do you think this Skeletor Is Love venture got started in the first place? We were TOTALLY wasting time and avoiding the things that we were actually supposed to be doing. Don’t discount your moments of idleness, they may lead to brilliant ideas with exciting and life-changing results!
…however, a good portion of the time, that is not actually the case. You spend your time playing Starcraft or that Simpsons game on your phone when you should be finishing your schoolwork or writing that business proposal and then - oops!- before you know it the day is over and you have accomplished exactly zero things.
My big thing is this. If you want something badly enough, you’ll make it happen. If you *really* want to get out of the house and go to a park on your day off and feed the ducks, then by god, you’ll do it. If not, eh, it will wait til another day. If you’d rather spend your time on your sofa in your underpants, well -hey, it’s your day off, so why not.
I’m sorry, you’re asking this question of the laziest person in the entire universe. If it wasn’t for the last minute, I would never get anything done. And you know what? I work best that way. I’ve accepted that and moved on to the things that I actually care to change. My procrastinating habits? Eh, not so much. I’m responsible enough to know when a deadline’s looming, I get shit done, and my bills are all paid. If it took me 23 hours to build up to that point, well so what? It’s still done!
This is a very rambling and round about way of saying just this: ask yourself if you really want to change your patterns. If you do, then you will.
Anonymous, unless you are a god or some sort of immortal, I fear that someday you will indeed shuffle off this mortal coil.
Make the most of the time you’ve got here. Don’t wait to tell someone special that they are special to you and more importantly don’t wait to start treating yourself like the special, unique, one-of-a-kind human person that you are. You’re not going to be around forever, you’re never going to get it perfect, so do the best with what you’ve got right now.*
*This is NOT to say “live like there’s no tomorrow”; I never liked the idea of that, sounds kind of irresponsible doesn’t it? Like you have one last crazy night and then you wake up penniless and with a list of untreatable diseases of the nethers, because - surprise! - tomorrow actually came after all and so maybe blowing your entire savings account in that brothel was a terrible idea.
hey skeletor, I just wanted to thank you for your neverending positivity in the face of the struggle that is this world. I used to think affirmations were cheesy. I still do. however, affirmations from a friendly face that makes me smile are something entirely different. I don't remember how I found you, but I do know for sure that you are improving my life and helping me to become a more qualified and active contributor to the world around me. so yeah, thanks! =D
Thanks to you too, Anonymous for putting a smile on my face this morning!
Skeletor, thank you for your valuable insights which provide me with constant guidance. I find myself turning to you as I prepare to move to a new city and start a new job. I am nervous to begin my new life and leave behind everything that I know, so I want to ask you how I should face the unknown?
One of the most difficult things about pulling up your roots and moving elsewhere is meeting new folks and finding a new support system, I think. Are you somewhat antisocial or perhaps a bit of an introvert? I am. Meeting people is one of the most challenging, scariest things ever. I can quite honestly say that I hate meeting new people. You know what makes it a million times easier? The internet. Seriously. Find forums or tumblr folk or meetups in the area where you’re headed and start making friends and connections ahead of time. Find out where the knitting clubs or the (insert your hobby here) people meet up and do their thing and reach out to those folks and introduce yourself long before you get there. And hopefully by the time you get there you’ll be feeling like you’re having a reunion with old friends instead of throwing yourself into a tank of sharks.
Now, your mother is probably going to get all freaked out and get on your case about internet predators and of course this is a valid concern. That lady on AHS Coven *did* just totally get murdered by some dude she met on a Thomas Kinkaid forum (sorry for the spoiler!), but what this ultimately tells me is that you cannot trust Thomas Kincaid fans. Not that meeting people over the internet is inherently bad. Of course - take precautions, be careful, etc. But I am sure that I do not need to tell you all of that.
Someone said to me “that’s like cheating! You should just put yourself out there and make friends!*” WHAT. Um, no. If there is an easier, practical way to do something, I will choose that over the risky, scary way. Is that solid, character-building advice? That is doubtful. But you’ve got enough stressors in life, right? Why make things harder than they have to be. I mean, really.
*If you serious feel like you’ve got something to prove and you must insist on putting yourself out there with a group of new people, might I suggest showing up at a board game club? Everyone is playing a game, so no one is really focusing on you, but it’s a really great way to get to know people. It sounds dorky, but board games are fun, and I go to a meetup once a month now and have a blast. If I can do it, anyone can.
"My inner voice guides me always" What sort of things does your inner voice tell you? I think mine might be my nemesis, it says the most disparaging things. It knows me so well, just what will make me feel even more filled with doubt, regret, loss and sadness. It admonishes me for procrastinating while at the same time suggesting ways to just sink further into a morass of inactivity. How can I get an inner voice that doesn't seem like my worst enemy?
Anonymous, I have thought long and hard about your question. I hope you didn’t think I was ignoring you.
A person I know calls this “The fear voice”, and suggests that you treat it very much as you would a boggart - you laugh at it. Until those things it says no longer seem true or important because you’ve diminished them. They’re ridiculous!
She also suggests, and I agree, that you must drown it out with your True Voice. This is the one that knows you are capable, knows you are smart enough, good enough (and gosh darn it, people like you!). This is the voice coming from your soul. The other voice, the fear voice? It’s manipulating you and it stems from nowhere. It has no place in you.
Is this the most professional and thorough answer you can get? Probably not. I am not an expert, and though my inner voice often tells me things that work for me “don’t trust that guy!” or “you’d better wake up and go for a walk this morning because you know you’re going to be too tired tonight!” …every once in a while it will say things like “don’t look in a mirror today, you’ll regret it!” - that’s when I have to find the first mirror I come across and make a series of ridiculous faces and give it the middle finger. It’s not a perfect system. But you don’t have to be your own worst enemy - it does NOT have to be that way. Laugh at that nasty fear voice, listen to the true voice of your soul, and be your own best friend instead.
Dear Skeletor, You are brighter light. There are folks I'm glad exist. And you, sir, are one of those people. Stand strong. Be brave. Continue the journey. From the afar I watch your light and life grow ever brighter. Carry on!
What a beautiful sentiment! Thank you so much for the kind words!
Hi Skeletor, my partner and I are huge fans of you and your work and we have been wanting to commemorate your special place in our hearts by naming our first-born son after you; he is due January 6th. However, our families are (mysteriously) displeased with our decision and would rather us name him after a saint or at least something biblical. How do you suggest we reach a compromise? Are there any Skeletors in the begat chapters we might have overlooked?
I am beyond honored! And of course allow me to offer congratulations on the little human person you are bringing into the world!
Well, you could certainly point all unbelievers to this piece of art depicting a martyred, sainted Skeletor. Is there a patron saint of change, of bettering yourself? Here’s a compromise - whoever that saint is, that could be the first name. And the middle name? SKELETOR! Win-win!
We’re very pleased to share with you a very rare interview with one of the most complicated - and perhaps misunderstood? - men history has ever known: Skeletor. On a quest toward betterment and self-actualization over the past year, Skeletor is trying to set aside his wrathful ways in favor of deep reflection, curiosity, kindness and learning. We hope you enjoy the interview, which includes a special message to our readers!